Community Guidelines

A young adult community can reflect a wide variety of backgrounds, faith journeys, and convictions. These differences enrich our experience in many ways. They also call for some common understandings and commitments so that we can live together in harmony.  All members of the community are expected to uphold the basic guidelines outlined below. We make these available online so potential community members may have a clear understanding of these aspects of shared life. These guidelines are informed by our identity as a Christian community, and by the traditions that have shaped our understanding of how we seek to follow Jesus. We welcome students from other identities and traditions, but all who choose to stay at the Vine & Table are expected to respect the convictions and values of this community.

A primary expectation of all members of the community is that we take seriously the interests and well-being of others. It is hoped that a Christian spirit of love and grace will permeate all of our interactions. We want to be supportive of each other, but we also want to hold each other accountable for the choices we make.

Behaviour that is not in keeping with the values of the community, regardless of where it occurs, is cause for community concern. House members are asked to participate in any resulting accountability process by demonstrating a readiness for dialogue and a willingness to give and to receive counsel.

Our approach to addressing conflicts around guidelines is based on Matthew 18:15-18. This passage outlines a healthy way of approaching confrontation and beginning dialogue on issues that affect the Vine and Table community, which will always be held in prayer with an attitude of love and concern.

Accountability

Young adulthood is an important season in the journey of becoming mature adults and active citizens. Because of our urban context and the variety of settings into which young adults are entering, there is often exposure to a wide range of new ideas, opportunities and temptations. We recognize that one of the tasks of the community is to help one another learn and choose responsible lifestyles in this new context.

The expectation of conducting responsible lifestyles falls into three areas:

1. On certain points we do have clear-cut basic guidelines or rules, as noted below, that we expect house members to observe. It is important for you to know this as you decide if the Vine & Table is right for you.

2. There may be other specific guidelines that are created and agreed on once the community has formed.  

3. In other areas, we expect that house members’ conduct in specific situations will be guided by more general criteria such as consideration of others, welfare of the community, and/or good taste.

In all areas, our approach is not to enforce compliance through policing. Rather, we seek to make a serious attempt to live together well through commitment, discussion and mutual accountability. We are convinced that this approach to life together - though sometimes time-consuming – is more conducive to fostering a sense of community and more effective in shaping our character in the long-term.

 When guidelines are not respected, the process will always begin with dialogue. That dialogue may be initiated by either students or coordinators. Depending on the nature of the situation, other community members may be asked to join the conversation.  All disciplinary situations will be dealt with on a case-by-case basis, and will be viewed as valuable learning opportunities, not only for the individual(s) involved, but also for the community. In all cases it is hoped that students will choose for themselves values and lifestyles that are consistent with Christian faith and practice.

Basic Guidelines

Alcohol

We recognize that young adults come with a variety of perspectives on the use of alcohol. These varying perspectives can become a source of division and pain within the community when individuals claim for themselves the freedom to adopt drinking patterns that cause others concern. Alcohol has caused immense damage to many individuals and cultures and we also recognize that the consumption of alcohol in excess can be harmful and can undermine our Christian witness. We also acknowledge that in many social circumstances, alcoholic beverages are offered as a choice.  Therefore, alcohol, in moderation, may be consumed. However, drunkenness is not tolerated. Those who are known to use alcohol irresponsibly need to be held accountable.

Smoking (Tobacco & Marijauna)

Smoking affects the air quality of those nearby, especially those with asthma, allergies and severe environmental/chemical sensitivities. For these reasons smoking is not permitted in the Vine & Table house or yard. The cultural/spiritual practice of smudging can be discussed as a household as the circumstances arise.

Illegal Drugs

Illegal drugs are not allowed in the community. Besides being illegal, these drugs can create dependencies and invite unhealthy escapism. Community members who are known to use illegal drugs need to be held accountable.

Pornography

We believe that pornography is demeaning to individuals and undermines God’s ideal for human sexuality. We recognizes the power of pornography’s appeal and its potential for harmful addiction. Viewing pornographic material, is unhealthy and detrimentally impacts personal relationships and life within the community.

Sexual Harassment

Sexual harassment is a form of exploitation, and a violation of the respect that all persons deserve. The Community will not tolerate sexual harassment by any member of the Community, nor will it condone sexual harassment in the context of the community. Sexual harassment includes but is not limited to:

  • Any degrading or unwelcome remarks, jokes, innuendos, whistling or catcalls regarding a person’s body, attire or gender;

  • Any unwelcome flirtations, advances or requests for sexual favours;

  • Any unwelcome physical contact;

  • Any demands for sexual favours accompanied by a promise of reward or a threat of reprisal.

Addressing sexual harassment policies is discussed at the beginning of each term.

Sexual Relationships

We acknowledge human sexuality as a gift and blessing from God, and encourage healthy relationships in both dating and marriage. Students in dating relationships are expected to act with Christian maturity, treating each other with honour and respect, and using discretion in public expressions of affection. The Community affirms marriage as the proper context for sexual intimacy. Sexual intimacy in any non-marital relationship is considered to be inappropriate within the Community.

Other Forms of Misconduct

We will seek to address any actions that are harmful to other persons, which undermine the health of the community.  These actions include, but are not limited to: disturbing the peace; physically assaulting another person; fighting; vandalism; theft; fires in public places; emotional, physical or sexual abuse; hate literature; any other form of harassment. In extreme cases, misconduct may result in temporary or long-term suspension of the member from the Vine & Table.